Nudism And Wives
What If Your Wife Isn't Fit Enough To Be A Nudist?
TOUGH DECISIONS FOR OLDER MEN IN DUBIOUS MARRIAGES. A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR OFFERS SOME ADVICE THAT MAY SHOCK YOU, INFURIATE OTHERS BUT LEAD YOU TO A HAPPIER LIFE.
At the wrap session for a recent group retreat in Tulum, Mexico, where eight couples enjoyed five days of yoga, massage, beach time, languorous afternoons by the pool with tropical drinks and open forum discussion with a guru marriage counselor, a difficult topic came up. What should a "fit" man in a long term marriage do if his wife has decided to let herself go? What if he wanted to enjoy "nude" vacations, as everyone there was doing, but was ashamed of his wife, even though he loved her? The questioner indicated he was speaking for friend whose wife was hopelessly fat.
"He should give her an ultimatum. Either she lose the weight or agree to a divorce," was the counselor's reply.
It seems harsh, but have you looked around lately? Obesity is an epidemic in our country. If you're fit, you're in the minority. If you're fit, and your wife or husband isn't, you're probably suffering some degree of misery in your relationship. And people who willingly let themselves go, who get fat, tend to have other issues that make them less than good company. It's not just a weight issue. Men or women who don't put their foot down when their mate begins to slide is doing a disservice to themselves and their mates.
I asked Rebo for a couple pictures of "unfit" nudists, which we generally don't put in our pages unless they're in a group shot of some kind, and I just didn't want to publish them when she forwarded them (hence, the photo above, which shows a member's wife in her fifties who has not let herself go, but simply illustrates the usual signs of graceful aging with acceptable weight gain).
The truth is, men and women can look great, nude or otherwise, well into their advanced years. Who cares about wrinkles? They're natural, as are liver spots, diminishing hairlines and all the rest associated with aging. But getting fat at any age is not natural. It's hideous at any age (and screw that "nudist" mantra that the human body is beautiful in any form. It's not).
The "Warrior Group" is a collective effort to comb the latest ideas and scientific papers on aging to help older men live in their optimal ranges physically and mentally. The Warrior in the name is a bit of a pun, as we're not maniacs about fitness, not out there running Iron Man competitions - we just don't want to be hideous looking. We also want to enjoy life to fullest, which in our case includes a lot of time sitting in tropical resorts sipping rum drinks, as well as minding our general diets and doing enough physically to maintain our physiques.
The exercise regimen, thanks to Tony, is down to three twenty-minute sessions a week. If you've already met Tony you know he resembles a fountain of vitality. He proves it's not hard to stay fit. If you're a fit older man, would you want to be with an unfit wife?
So the question is, should a man divorce his wife of many years if she willingly gets fat? That's up to the man to decide. But with so much life left to live, it would be hard to fault him for it, not if he values his later years and knows there are "warrior" men and women out there committed to "not giving in," including many who have dealt with this same issue (who elected their happiness over that insidious routine so many Americans make of their retirements - twin recliners with plenty of snacks on the coffee table, next to their trays of prescription drugs).
We can credit nudism with inspiring many of us to get fit so we can enjoy the lifestyle without embarrassment. That's where the health comes in - you want to be healthy, so you can enjoy it as much as you can. Who would want to drag a fat spouse along, male or female? The truth is, you don't have to. Many have.
This is bound to produce some irate mail. So be it. J. Paul
PHOTO: MYRA, BOULDER CO. EXTRACT: THE TULUM NUDIST COUPLES WORKSHOPS